We’re all AP moms!

By now, you’ve all seen it. Or at least heard about it.

The latest cover of Time magazine.

(If you’ve been living under a rock you really have no idea what I’m talking about, please Google “time magazine breastfeeding cover”)

It’s making waves across the country. Breastfeeding and La Leche League groupies are rejoicing in the fact that a child who looks old enough to be in middle school has a boob in his mouth. The “other” mommies at the playground are either 1) appalled by the inappropriate nature of this photograph, and/or 2) feeling mega mommy guilt for being unwilling or unable to do so themselves. (For the record, I’m in the second group….)

I thought about bringing the debate over here. How old is too old for a child to be breastfed?! But, when I actually got a chance to read the article this afternoon, I was surprised to see that it had very little to do with extended breastfeeding (ie: breast feeding past the age of one). It’s actually about Dr. Bill Sears and his family (who are well known for The Baby Book, The Vaccine Book, etc.) and how parents take their attachment parenting (AP) philosophy to the extreme.

I will admit, I kind of wanted to be one of those AP, super-crunchy moms. But things don’t always work out as planned

Enough Mom guilt for one day, though!

As it turns out, according to these “eight principles of attachment parenting“:

  • Preparation for Pregnancy, Birth and Parenting
  • Feed with Love and Respect
  • Respond with Sensitivity
  • Use Nurturing Touch
  • Ensure Safe Sleep, Physically and Emotionally
  • Provide Consistent Loving Care
  • Practice Positive Discipline
  • Strive for Balance in Personal and Family Life

Even though I’m not a stay-at-home Mom, won’t breastfeed my son until he starts kindergarten, and will not co-sleep until he goes away to college…

I am still an AP mom!

(And so are you, provided you don’t abandon your child at the grocery store. Anymore. That one time he really needed to be taught a lesson…)

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  1. :snort: But I want to leave my child at the grocery store.

    No seriously. I hate Time for doing this. To me it screams sensationalism and brings out the worst in this discussion: fear, outliers, and condemnation.

    I personally have decided to refuse to take a stance on telling someone how long to breastfeed their child. I posted on twitter minutes ago this article that I think wraps up the situation nicely: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lisa-belkin/no-i-am-not-mom-enough_b_1507550.html

    I do see the irony that this week has seen so much talk on civil rights and allowing outlying people the right to choose their own life decisions (gay marriage) and yet the outlying mom’s who choose to breastfeed to 2-5 years or age are condemned and told if they have to do it to pump or lock themselves away.

    That’s my fairly small soap box. The end. Thank you for posting about the disconnect between the cover and the article content. =)

    • It is ironic, isn’t it?!

      I don’t have a problem with a mother nursing her children until whatever age she sees fit (as long as she covers herself out of respect for others, and not try to blatantly prove a point!) It’s her choice. Just not one I would make myself. 🙂

  2. The general consensus at my La Leche League meeting this morning was that the photo was in poor taste. It was simply done to get people’s panties in a wedge and cause a stir. Not one person was rejoicing in it.

    • Thanks for your comment, Andrea.

      I apologizing for implying that all LLL moms are 100% in favor of breastfeeding after infancy, or that they look down on mothers that do not. I’m solely basing this on personal experience in dealing with some of the extremists. I’m glad to hear that your group is not in the same realm as other moms i’ve encountered.

      • The group I was at today was a part of our toddler series. Most of the moms there were nursing past infancy. The reason no one liked the picture wasn’t that she was nursing a three year old it was that it was a posed photo and not a picture of a mom naturally nursing her child. No one nurses their child while standing on a stool. It was staged to cause controversy and sell magazines. And the title? Yea, no one was a fan of that, especially the mom who is in the process of becoming an AP group leader.


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