Of all the things I planned to do when my son was younger, co-sleeping was not really one of them. The thought of a tiny little baby in our bed with us made me super *OMG I’M GOING TO ROLL ON TOP OF HIM* nervous, and my husband was all “You know if he sleeps with us now, it’s going to be for-ev-er…”
So…aside from a short nap here and there in the bed, he pretty much slept in someone’s arms in the recliner…every. single. night. Because that’s better.
Needless to say, our nighttime routine (or lack of one) was a nightMARE. One night, I just said I QUIT! And brought him into our bed…
Honestly – best decision ever (for us).
(My apologies for the HORRIBLE picture quality – a combination of blinding florescent lights and my camera phone. Not even Instagram can save this one…)
…for many families, bed-sharing is a night-by-night effort to lose the least amount of sleep and sanity, which are really one and the same. It’s just a way that parents figure out how to cope…
But – despite the tiny sliver of bed I get to sleep on, and the occasional elbow jab to the eye socket – I do love the extra snuggle time with my tiny toddler ninja.
And I’m also (on some level) trying not to be the most absent mom ever…
“If you get home at 6:30 p.m. and your kid goes to bed at 7:30 p.m., then do you want: a) an hour with them? Or b) nine hours with them?…”A lot of people will choose b) because it’s a form of intimate connection and it makes [everybody] feel like they’re having a relationship.” – Ana Villalobos, a sociologist at Brandeis University in Waltham, Mass.
So this is what’s working for us now. And not all of the time. Lately, he’s been perfectly fine falling asleep and staying asleep in his own bed. Of course, tomorrow may be a different story.
Do you co-sleep? How old is your child (or children)? Is it something you planned to do from the beginning, or was it an act of sleep-deprived desperation?